Getting Me: The Book

In The Book

Welcome! We are so excited that you are here. This means you have purchased our book and are wanting to either enhance, improve, repair, or save your marriage.

On this page you will find the videos, resources, and tools referenced in Getting Me. We produced these tools exclusively for our readers.

Feel free to download and make copies of the materials for you and your spouse!

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Resources and Tools

Date Night Menu:

We discuss the Date Night Menu in the Intentional Date Night chapter of Getting Me. The menu is to be completed by both spouses and should be updated regularly. See page 32 in Getting Me for more information

State of the Union Agenda:

As we discuss in the State of the Union chapter of Getting Me, this sample agenda will help you plan for your State of the Union meetings. See pages 90 and 91 in Getting Me for more information.

Conversation Starters:

As we discuss in the Intentional Date Night chapter of Getting Me, these are thought-provoking questions that allow you to discover something new about your spouse. See page 41 in Getting Me for more information.

Referral Resources:

These are the Referral Resources we recommend in Getting Me. See pages 23 and 139 in Getting Me for more information.

Videos

This Getting Me podcast discusses how we are to approach our relationship with God. "Loving God All In" is referenced in the chapter "Sacred Time," on page 120 of Getting Me.
This Getting Me podcast discusses a provocative question Gregg asks couples in his practice. "Which Would You Choose?" is referenced in the chapter "Pillow Talk," on page 101 of Getting Me.
This Getting Me podcast discusses the difference pausing an emotional response can make in conflict. "Why Suspending Emotion Is Easier Said Than Done" is referenced in the chapter "Couch Time," on page 68 of Getting Me.
This Getting Me podcast discusses how to include God in a Couch Time Conversation. "Inviting God to Couch Time" is referenced in the chapter "Be The Twenty Percent," on page 75 of Getting Me.
This Getting Me podcast discusses how resentment can erode a marriage. "#1 Killer of Marriage: Resentment" is referenced in the chapter "Couch Time," on page 82 of Getting Me.
This Getting Me podcast discusses the importance of the emotional health of each spouse in a marriage. "Emotional Equivalency In Marriage" is referenced in the chapter "Be The Twenty Percent," on page 136 of Getting Me.
This Getting Me podcast discusses how to arrive at a compromise in conflict. "Fair and Balanced Scoring" is referenced in the chapter "Conflict Time," on page 81 of Getting Me.
This Getting Me podcast discusses the purpose of a bed in marriage. "A Bed for Two" is referenced in the chapter "Pillow Talk," on page 102 of Getting Me.
This Getting Me podcast discusses the importance of keeping technology out of your Intentional Date Night. "Phone at Home" is referenced in the chapter "Intentional Date Night," on page 39 of Getting Me.
This Getting Me podcast discusses how to handle conflict in State of the Union. "When Conflict Arises in State of the Union" is referenced in the chapter "State of the Union," on page 93 of Getting Me.
This Getting Me podcast discusses the importance of inviting God into marriage. "Creating A Love Triangle" is referenced in the chapter "Sacred Time," on page 136 of Getting Me.
This Getting Me podcast discusses how to intentionally connect when one spouse is away from home on business travel. "Business Travel and Marriage" is referenced in the chapter "Comings and Goings," on page 58 of Getting Me.
This Getting Me podcast discusses the importance of each spouse taking responsibility in marriage. "Which Would You Choose?" is referenced in the chapter "Be The Twenty Percent," on page 137 of Getting Me.